I haven't written for a long time.
I can come up with a list of excuses a mile long.
But if I'm really committed to finding the answer to that question, and keep with it long enough, I'll get to the root - the cause - the real reason.
I've thought a lot about the question WHY in the last few months and I'm convinced that finding the answer to that question - in whichever context it is used - is the key to unlocking nearly all the subsequent questions in the universe.
Now I can ask WHY in at least two contexts: one is in a whining and victim-thinking mode that is externally focused. But that context doesn't get me to a true answer. When I'm really committed to understanding what's at the CAUSE of my challenges and upsets, that's when I'm going to find some real answers.
I've recently completed the book Building the Bridge As You Walk On It by Robert E. Quinn and I've hit a new level of understanding regarding personal change and transformation.
You'll want to read the book for yourself, so I'm not even going to get into a review here. Just know that coming to terms with your own personal WHY in any situation that frustrates or upsets you - and journaling about that question at least 5 times will get you much closer to the real reason for your frustration.
I'm reminded again of Byron Katie who says that defense is the first act of war, and war belongs on paper where we can really be objective and start questioning the thoughts that get us to the defensive mindset in the first place.
Start by asking WHY and you may not have to go anywhere else.
BE the change you wish to see in the world.
Connect with your purpose.
Ask WHY of yourself more often.